Tama

Tama is an exceptional woman—kind-hearted, generous, and deeply compassionate, with a life philosophy grounded in sharing, respect, and goodwill. She is always ready to help, no matter the circumstances. She is also my friend of nearly thirty years – we’ve known each other since middle school. Our friendship began in a rather unexpected way: through a little jealousy, as we had both bought the same pair of sneakers. From that amusing rivalry grew a strong bond that followed us through our school years, until we eventually went our separate ways at university. But we shared much more than academics: summer camps, trips to Spain and Senegal… I often spent time at her place, and her second home – along with her beloved cover – was at my mother’s. In fact, my mother considers Tama her second daughter. And with good reason: Tama is an avid reader, passionate about history, art, and culture. She honoured me by asking me to be her maid of honour and the godmother of her first son. Naturally, it was unthinkable not to ask her to be my maid of honour when I got married. Tama is the person who knows me best. I trust her completely. She is always there – with kindness, wisdom, and thoughtful advice. To me, she is the sister I never had.

Alex

Alexandra is an exceptional strong-willed woman who knows exactly what she wants and rarely lets anyone walk all over her. She’s not afraid to speak her mind — which might seem surprising for someone in the military! She values order, honesty, and holds deep-rooted family and friendship values. Our friendship goes back to middle school, nearly thirty years. We first met during an inter- school volleyball tournament, where we were on opposing teams. Later, we crossed paths again at summer camp, and that’s where our friendship truly began. Although we didn’t follow the same academic path, we were neighbors, and our closeness allowed us to share simple but meaningful moments – like walking Jerry, Alex’s dog, or just talking about our day. We also travelled together – I’ll never forget our trip to Turkey, where I nearly got myself killed by bargaining a bit too aggressively, or the weekend she came to visit me in England. Alex honoured me by asking me to be her maid of honour, a gesture that further strengthened our bond, despite distance and life changes. One of the things I admire most about her is her consistency: the years go by, but she never changes. Alex and Émile are very similar — which, by contrast, shows how well she and I complement each other. She brings me stability and unwavering friendship, while I add a little spark of madness to the mix.

Brent

In short, Brent is the most honourable and principled guy I know. He has been my guiding light and moral pillar since the day I met him… We have been friends since our teens when we were both at Cape Technikon, and more importantly sharing a common interest in engineering and cars, amongst others. Brent’s dad had a vehicle repair workshop which he successfully ran from home following retirement, and many a weekend was spent leaning over the engine bays of our student cars, while absorbing the wisdom being bestowed on us by his dad. I called him Master Yoda… The most significant moment in our relationship occurred in our mid-twenties when we visited Zula Bar in Long Street, Cape Town one night for burgers and beer. We spoke meaningfully about life which we were both trying to figure out, our aspirations and our future paths. Low and behold, a significant part of that discussion has been realised today, as we always reference that night when we progress in our careers and personal life. All that’s left is for me to get married and start a family, as Brent is already married for 10+ years with 3 beautiful boys who keeps him on his toes. Hence all the grey hair, which he disguises very well as an intentional “salt and pepper look” if I may add! I was also honoured to be a best man at Brent’s wedding, which rooted our friendship even more. I could probably write a small book if I must share who Brent is to me and what he means to me, but I end with this. Brent has had a lasting impact on my life. If not for him, I may not be here to celebrate this upcoming milestone with him, which is marrying the woman of my dreams.